The Cousin relation is defined by very similar attitudes toward both strong aspects. These types look very similar from the outside and generally understand how stereotypically alike they are. The noticeable difference comes when these types explore the other’s insecurities. Each Cousin type eventually searches for a calm answer to their insecure function (3), yet the other has no response. This is where this relation can run into trouble, and start to look quite different. Under the surface, they find one another quite different than initially expected.
This pair’s obvious similarity mostly lies in their shared dominant aspect. They strive to optimize the same area of life so Cousins often find each other. Without consulting anyone else, cousins have no issue noticing and fixing problems related to this aspect. These types reinforce each other’s strengths and teach the other how to get what is wanted out of situations. The opinions of the partner are taken seriously in this relation because they can trust each other to make useful goals in the world. If there is disagreement over how to handle the dominant aspect, this pair does not hesitate to handle it separately.
Cousins also recognize each other through a similar way of articulating the world. They enjoy the same main result of out of life, but they notice a comparable exploratory side in the other. This pair discusses topics of interest with ease, as they can spend hours playing in the realm of their shared flexible aspect. Conversation often circles back to using the broad information gathered from the flexible aspect to create better results in their lives. Through talking out the intricacies of this aspect of life, Cousins come to know they are as different as they are similar.
When it comes to areas that they are unconfident in, these types often misunderstand each other. The insecure aspect is simply overlooked by the other’s oblivious preference. An individual easily feels like the other just is not listening. Their interactions about their main life focus are understood more than each other’s deep insecurities. Conversation becomes strained between Cousins when disbelief enters the interaction because the other thinks the questioning is unnecessary. This pair is marked by partners doing the same activities to make up for different areas where they desire growth. Even if each other’s motives are a mystery, Cousins respect their similar approaches to life.