3E – Insecure Emotion
The 3E attitude is characterized by a self-negative (Es-) and others-negative (Eo-) disposition. This disposition creates an attitude that is plagued by an awareness of limitations, weakness, harm, negative consequences, and manipulation within the realm of emotion. This awareness applies internally, externally, and within the exchange of information in the aspect. 3Es have a keen sense of how they can be harmed by emotion. The strategies that each 3E employs to deal with the insecurity may differ in behavior or execution but the core attitude of subjective vulnerability and insecurity will remain consistent for all 3Es. Below are some common beliefs and behaviors that you may see with 3Es. Please keep in mind that these are generalities and do not represent the vast sub-archetypes held within the overall 3E attitude.
Are confused and sometimes stunted by emotional turmoil happening inside them. May feel faltered in their relationships if they are not given ample reassurance that they are allowed to express themselves or withhold when needed. Are unsure and pressured by their intuitions of people as they do not know if they should trust them. At times, go on long tirades of emotional outbursts (positive or negative) due to holding them in for extended time periods. Can cause themselves paranoia in wondering what it means to love, like, dislike, or feel a certain way about others. May be puzzled by art and the emotional sensation it gives them when it is not directly clear what is being expressed. Do not trust what their deep desires mean and how to interpret them, but wish to understand them.
Can over-identify with negative emotions and respond aggressively to those who reject, challenge or pressure their own perspective. Tend to be sensitive to personal differences with others and may try extra hard to understand them in order to avoid falling into any disagreement. Can go overboard with their emotions and become venomous which causes regret that can further lead to self-imposed isolation. May focus entirely too much on what their friendships, loved ones, and intuitions mean to them, often leading to neuroticism and anxiety about every new person who enters their lives. Can reject the emotions of others if they feel too judgmental, assured, or arrogant.
Can try to ignore their emotions in order to feel a sense of calm. Do not believe they know when to apply inner reactions to any given situation. Oftentimes do not know how to go about something when they are feeling offended – may distrust the offended feeling all together. May feel weary and wishing to escape the company of people who are emotionally volatile. Can convince themselves that they do not care about their emotions. Will avoid all situations in which they are expected to produce emotional content. Can become stressed by any instance where they have to entertain relational dynamics between people. May shut off entirely and pretend that everything is fine, going “with the flow” to get along with others.
Understand their own emotions towards certain people and become fixed in these emotions long-term, comfortable with the normal ebbs and flows. Find an outlet to share their desires and emotions in a healthy, stable way. Feel a sense of brevity in emoting the feelings that have been swirling inside of them. May find hidden abilities in art, poetry or song that was unfounded until they explored it. Become comfortable in who they are and how that relates to those around them. Realize that emotions are meant to be volatile, and letting them express and pass as they are supposed to will foster a feeling of security.
The 3E attitude is formed by placing the emotion aspect (E) into the insecure position (3rd). Insecure emotion (3E) has an apprehensive and unsure attitude towards all concepts of the emotional world. All 3E types believer they are insufficient at being involved in matters relating to human emotions. They are mostly anxious about their understanding of relationships, personal feelings, cultural differences, art, deep desires and person to person interaction. These types tend to have a shaky and unstable relationship with how they process all things related to the emotional realm. They tend to need clarification and feedback from others when engaging in all emotional matters.