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Customary relations are usually quite calm and understanding. Both aggressive/subjective attitudes (Confident and Insecure) are well understood, and if any topic is not of shared interest, they let it be. When a partner is skeptical or controversial, the other is accepting because they have similar standards. This may not always mean that they see eye to eye, but there will not be an aggressive disregard from either partner as they understand how this can hurt the ego and comfort of the other. This relation can become boring if they run out of shared interests to explore. Long periods of disinterest may accompany this relation. There is a mutual respect between individuals even if they are not inspired to communicate often, as their most visible aspect exhausts the other.

Partners enjoy quick results regarding their shared dominant aspect. Customaries may efficiently team up to get what they want. They allow each other the space to independently judge the value of any task related to the goal. When partners disagree about the ideal results, they do not hesitate to reach them alone. Individuals of this relation also share skepticism and self-doubt over the same aspect. They encourage each other to be rebellious towards standards pertaining to the area of life. In a reactive state, Customaries challenge each other to explore what they fear most. In a dormant state, they grant each other the space to address their insecurity when ready. This pair agrees that others should grant them the needed space to sort out their most important goals and uncertainties, so they often provide this for each other.

Confident explorations alienate Customaries from each other. Partners are unconcerned and oblivious to each other’s flexible aspects, leading to confusion in discussion. Talking at length about the 2nd aspect leads to boredom quickly, as the other partner only desires the main points. The flexible partner may feel that the other should appreciate the finer details of their discussion because they believe that everyone is capable of grappling with the aspect. Meanwhile, the oblivious partner may feel like their time is wasted endlessly addressing the aspect. A long period of disinterest can follow because they mutually ignore the other’s interests. This pair bonds periodically about their shared strivings in life and how to best preserve independence. It is difficult to converse on an ongoing basis, but the mutual respect for their edgier qualities maintains the bond. From this relation, Customaries learn that the ignored area of life can contain useful information for their most important strivings.

The Customary relation can become an asset when both partners check in with one another on occasion to share personal things they have learned. Both people have an array of subjective experiences that they are deeply concerned about and being able to compare notes with another person who is similarly interested in the subjectivity of those parts of reality is a huge benefit. Customaries tend to pick up right where they left off, until they run out of subjects to discuss, which is where they will leave things until next time. Although the compatibility between the two does not rank necessarily high, it does not mean that they dislike each other or “argue” much. It just has a specific function.