Relations of Conflict are defined by mutual disinterest and confusions of attitudes. Conflictors usually find each other’s disposition to be inappropriate and unnecessary. Their inherent differences encourage initial interest, and they attempt to help in each other’s lives. After all, a Conflictor takes over aspects of life where the other one is unsure. They try hard to find support in one another, but the closer they get, the quicker they realize their attitudes do not align.
This relation inspires feelings of inferiority in each partner. The dominant function is the others’ insecurity, and the insecurity is the others’ dominant function. If either partner asserts themselves, the other feels like their needs were not accounted for. Inversely, questioning coming from the Conflictor feels like an intrusion into the most important aspect of life. Both have trouble acting freely without offending the others’ sensibilities. It is easy for both people to feel misunderstood. Typically, individuals with this relation leave each other alone after frequent confusing interactions. This relation is similar to Specificity where partners conflict with the dominant and insecure aspects. However, relations of Specificity allow the individuals to bond over topics relating to their flexible function, leading to smoother interactions than Conflictors.
It is an initial challenge to effectively communicate with a Conflictor. Individuals in this relation try to find common ground even if miscommunication happens. The flexible function is the others’ oblivious function, and the oblivious function is the others’ flexible function. While one individual attempts to relate to the Conflictor, they are not easily persuaded. They can feel ignored when the effort to establish common ground does not work. Meanwhile, the Conflictor mainly feels that they are not getting to the point. The Conflictor can mitigate this confusion by communicating with their own flexible function, and similar results happen. This mutual boredom of conversation is similar to the Customary relation, where the flexible and oblivious functions are also switched. Nevertheless, individuals in a Customary relation can discuss the best ways to accomplish their shared main priority in life, unlike Conflictors.
Individuals in relations of Conflict often stay out of each other’s radius as much as possible. The Conflictor can appear that they are good at life, similar to the relation of Duality. Their lifestyle appears to be the least appealing way to do so, however. It is challenging for them to impress one another. One is confident where the other is unconfident, but it is tough to convince each other to attend to weak points. Even shared common interests can pose a communication barrier over the most enjoyable aspects of the subject. After a time, it is healthy to understand each other sees life as a different game, and they are not a bad person for living differently.