Relations of Suffocation are defined by a limited scope of overlapping interests, and suppression of attitudes by the Suffocator (SI+, Ex+, A-, Ig-). On one hand, there is a mutual understanding in the confident aspect of the Suffocator and the flexible aspect of the Suffocated, but this is overwhelmed by the exhaustive, and aggressive relations, as well as the mutually ignored fourth aspect. Generally, Suffocation pairs purely discuss one aspect, and quickly escape one another’s presence before developing further interest.
Members of this pairing hold different values on the important sources of satisfaction from life endeavors because they are from sextas with no common results aspects. The pair tends to find common ground in their semi-identical shared confident aspect and discuss this subject with ease. Because this semi-identical similarity becomes the anchor of the relationship, the flexible partner is the Suffocated person. When the Suffocated tries to turn the conversation towards getting their preferred result, the Suffocator wants to slow this process because of their skepticism of their partner’s confidence. It is easier for the Suffocator to be influenced by the Suffocated because of their shared confident aspect. Influencing in the other direction is difficult because the Suffocator’s excessive elaboration of their flexible function is overlooked by their partner.
The Suffocated is bored by the ramblings of their partner and pressures them to get to the point. Consequently, the Suffocator may yield to these demands out of confusion or intimidation. It is common for the Suffocator to perceive the Suffocated as too unsophisticated to talk at length with because the Suffocated finds them equally futile to listen to. The Suffocated often does not feel adequately heard except when speaking in the realm of their shared confident aspect. Their insecurities, when voiced, are typically not noticed by the Suffocator. When the Suffocated expands upon where they are unsure, critical, or need clarification, their partner perceives it as useless exploration with little point. The Suffocator does not take on the responsibility of processing their partner’s concerns because that area of life is of little interest. From this pairing, the Suffocator learns how to be more creative with their dominant aspect and sensitive to needs that are foreign to their lifestyle. The Suffocated learns to value other points of view and not take their partner’s disinterest personally. Both learn to be concise and understanding of a completely different enjoyment of life’s endeavors.
