The Cousin relation is defined by remarkably similar attitudes toward both self-sufficient aspects. These types look alike from the outside and generally understand how stereotypically akin they are. The noticeable difference comes when these types explore the other’s insecurities. Each Cousin type eventually searches for a calm answer to their insecure aspect, yet the other has no response. This is where this relation can run into trouble and start to look quite different. Under the surface, they find one another quite different than initially expected which can have an isolating effect on the relationship between the two. It is much easier to uncover similarities than the opposite.
This pair’s obvious similarity mostly lies in their shared dominant aspect. They strive to optimize the same area of life, so Cousins often find each other in similar spaces without even trying, albeit work or hobbies. Without consulting anyone else, Cousins have no issue noticing and fixing problems related to this aspect. These types reinforce each other’s strengths and teach the other how to get what is wanted out of situations. The opinions of the partner are taken seriously in this relation because they can trust each other to make useful goals in the world. If there is disagreement over how to handle the dominant aspect, this pair does not hesitate to handle it separately. When they must check in with each other about how to move forward, they will mostly defer back to the second shared aspect as this is universally the most compatible identical relation.
Cousins also recognize each other through a similar way of articulating the world. They enjoy confidently pursuing the results out of life within the same shared domain, but they notice a comparable exploratory side in the other through the second aspect. This pair discusses topics of interest with ease, as they can spend hours playing in the realm of their shared flexible attitude. Conversation often circles back to using the broad information gathered from the flexible attitude to create better results in their lives. Through talking out the intricacies of this aspect of life, Cousins come to know they are as different as they are similar, which again, directs them back to their sufficient attitudes rather than focusing on what is underneath the surface.
When it comes to areas that they are unconfident or insufficient in, these types often misunderstand each other. The insecure aspect is simply overlooked by the other’s unconcerned preferences. An individual easily feels like the other is just not listening no matter how hard they try to project that they are uncomfortable, insecure, or downright confused about the aspect. Their interactions about their main life focus are understood more than each other’s deep insecurities. Conversation becomes strained between Cousins when disbelief enters the interaction because the other thinks the questioning is unnecessary. This pair is marked by partners doing the same activities to make up for different areas where they desire growth. Even if each other’s motives are a mystery, Cousins respect their similar approaches to life.
These two can grow through doubling down focus on the shared second aspect and realizing that this is where the creative energy flows between them. If any uncomfortable focus on the third aspect comes up, mitigating it to a shared understanding of the second is the best route to take.