Relations of Suffocation are defined by a limited scope of overlapping interests and suppression of attitudes by each partner. On one hand, there is a mutual understanding in the confident aspect of partner 1 and the flexible aspect of partner 2, but this is overwhelmed by the exhaustive and aggressive relations, as well as the mutually ignored fourth aspect. Generally, Suffocation pairs purely discuss one aspect, and quickly escape one another’s presence before developing further interest. The more they are around each other, the more annoyed, confused and downright angered they can become.
Members of this pairing hold different values on the important sources of satisfaction from life endeavors because they are from sextas with no common results aspects. The pair tends to find common ground in their semi-identical shared aspect and discuss this subject with ease. Because this semi-identical similarity becomes the anchor of the relationship, the flexible partner is the one who is suffocated in that aspect. When this partner tries to turn the conversation towards getting their preferred result, the other wants to slow this process because of their skepticism of their partner’s confidence. It is easier for Partner 1 to be influenced by Partner 2 because of their shared confident aspect. Influencing in the other direction is difficult because Partner 1’s excessive elaboration of their flexible aspect is overlooked by their partner. This is how “Suffocation” can be implemented in reverse by partner 2.
Although this relation is technically “uneven”, there is suffocation happening in both directions, it is just split among results and process. One partner suffocates the other through Exhaustive (Ex) measures, and the other does it through Argumentative (A+) measures. Other than the Conflict relation, Suffocation is the worst. Each person has two Suffocation pairings, and we switch roles depending on which partner is present. Besides Radiance and Instruction, Suffocation is the only Square relation in Attitudinal Psyche, and specifically the only Square relation in Opposing sexta relations.
Partner 2 is bored by the ramblings of Partner 1 and pressures them to get to the point. Consequently, Partner 1 may yield to these demands out of confusion or intimidation. It is common for Partner 1 to perceive the other as too unsophisticated to talk at length with because Partner 2 finds them equally futile to listen to. Partner 2 often does not feel adequately heard except when speaking in the realm of their shared confident aspect. Their insecurities, when voiced, are typically not noticed by Partner 1. When Partner 2 expands upon where they are unsure, critical, or need clarification, their partner perceives it as useless exploration with little point. Partner 1 does not take on the responsibility of processing their partner’s concerns because that area of life is of little interest. From this pairing, Partner 1 learns how to be more creative with their dominant aspect and sensitive to needs that are foreign to their lifestyle. Partner 2 learns to value other points of view and not take their partner’s disinterest personally. Both learn to be concise and understanding of a completely different enjoyment of life’s endeavors.
To make this Type relation work, there must be serious understanding of how the other operates. This is one of the most complex relations in Attitudinal Psyche and it requires a large deal of empathy and meeting others where they are at. The best way to coexist is to learn about each other’s preferred ways of communication.